BDSM is a vast and diverse world — and there’s no “one way” to explore it. Whether you’re drawn to the psychological, the physical, the playful, or the emotional aspects, there’s likely a style of play that speaks to you.
You don’t need to try everything — or anything at all. This is simply here to help you understand the variety of experiences people enjoy, so you can find what feels right for you.
Pet Play
The submissive (pet) takes on animal-like traits or behaviors, often with an owner or handler.
- Common types: kitten, puppy, pony, bunny, fox.
- May include collars, leashes, treats, training, and specific gear (tails, ears, harnesses).
- Focus can range from cute and playful to obedient and disciplined.
Pony Play
A specific type of pet play where the submissive acts as a pony.
- Includes gear like bridles, bits, saddles, and hoof boots.
- Activities might involve cart pulling, dressage, or obedience training.
- Often elegant, ritualistic, and performance-based.
Slave/Submissive Play
The submissive gives up some or all control to a Dominant.
- Can include service, obedience training, tasks, rituals, kneeling, rules.
- May range from gentle praise-based dynamics to strict protocols.
- Includes titles like sub, bottom, boy/girl, or slave depending on intensity.
Brat Play
The submissive intentionally misbehaves or challenges the Dominant.
- Often playful, teasing, and flirtatious.
- Brats usually want to be corrected, but enjoy pushing boundaries.
- Brat tamers (Dominants) are skilled in handling and disciplining without losing control.
Switch Play
A Switch is someone who enjoys both Dominant and submissive roles.
- May switch roles based on partner, mood, or scene.
- Switch play often includes negotiation and dynamic balancing.
- Great for exploring both sides of power exchange.
Medical Play
Scenes mimic clinical or hospital environments.
- Can include roleplay, examinations, latex gloves, tools, or even mild medical procedures (within limits and safety).
- Popular with fans of precision, humiliation, or control.
Bondage & Restraint Play
Focused on physical restraint and immobility.
- Includes rope (shibari/kinbaku), cuffs, chains, spreader bars, cages.
- May be decorative, practical, or punishing.
- Can intersect with sensory play or power exchange.
Sensory Deprivation/Overload
Manipulating the senses for heightened experience.
- Deprivation: blindfolds, hoods, earplugs, isolation.
- Overload: intense sounds, lights, smells, or multiple sensations at once.
Impact Play
Includes spanking, flogging, paddling, whipping, and similar activities.
- May be erotic, punishing, or cathartic.
- Safe words and aftercare are essential to process intensity.
Exhibitionism / Voyeurism
Focused on being watched or watching others.
- Could involve performing in public (within boundaries) or having a partner watch.
- Can be sexual or psychological; sometimes overlaps with humiliation or praise kinks.
Psychological Play
Involves mind games, control, degradation, humiliation, or praise.
- Subtle but powerful—can be deeply rewarding or damaging without care.
- Requires high trust, emotional maturity, and communication.
These are just a few types—there are many more niche kinks and roles depending on the community.
